Let’s be Honest Mamas: Labor & Delivery

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The most important job that I have ever had is being a mom, so sharing about the thing that is most important and that covers pretty much 85% of my day is inevitable.  This month with with Let’s be Honest Mamas, Kacie from Elements of Ellis, asks us to share about our birth stories and plans we made for this big moment in our lives.  Hope you enjoy the read!

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1. Did you have a birth plan? If so, what was it. Did your labor go as planned?

Yes, I had a birthing plan!  It was pretty standard since I wanted to be open and not have anxiety because I needed to fit between those lines.  I was going to try to be natural, but not cross out the possibility that I might need pain meds.  I have never given birth before, so I don’t know what to expect, especially when I never have menstrual cramps.  One thing I know I didn’t wanted was an episiotomy.  Most of my labor was pretty normal, until the end where some measures needed to be taken for him to come out.

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2. Share your thoughts on a natural birth vs. a medicated birth vs. a c-section.

I feel we have to respect any kind of birth plan a mother chooses.  For me, I would go with any of these types of birth depending of the need of my baby.  We never know what’s going to happen when our baby is ready to come out to the world and we need to be open that things will not go according to plan and sometimes extreme measures need to happen.

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3. Briefly share your birth story/stories.

Wow, going back in memory lane. I was 3cm dilated a week before Atticus was born.  I remember Monday night my water broke and we called the nurses and they told us to come to the hospital.  I didn’t have any cramps for hours.  I was dilating pretty quickly, but everything was pretty calm throughout the night.  I couldn’t sleep because i was angsty and expectant.  Surprisingly i wasn’t scared.  I got an epidural in the middle of the night.  Maybe i was week, but it was supposed to happen and I don’t let anyone make me feel guilty about it.  Pretty much didn’t feel anything from then on.  Early morning I started to push, but I felt I wasn’t pushing hard enough probably because I didn’t feel anything?  At some point he was stuck because the umbilical cord was around his neck and his heart rate was not coming up quickly enough.  The doctor communicated that they might need to use the vacuum if it happened again, which it did.  They put an oxygen mask on me, which was the scariest part of this whole thing.  I pushed, put the vacuum around his head, head came out, untangled the cord around his neck and he was born!  Things happened, some bigger some smaller.  This need to happen for the safety and life of Atticus.  You can read a longer, detailed birth story on this blog post!

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4. What advice would you give an expectant mother in regards to child-birth?

Having an open mind to not turn one of the most important days of your life into disappointment.  A birth plan NEVER goes as plan some way or another, big or small.  Give yourself grace, you know what you can do so don’t be afraid to make decisions base on what other people might say or criticize about you.  Making decisions for your child starts in pregnancy and you will know whats best for them.  Also, taking care of yourself is choosing what’s best for them as well.  Always ask question about anything! The doctor or midwife can answer anything, and you are paying them so use them as resource as much as you can!  You might feel stupid, but having anxiety at home because you don’t want to ask is worst than sounding stupid, right? Enjoy pregnancy because it goes by so fast!  And let your husbands in on everything you’re experiencing and ask them how they can be part of that big day.

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5. Are there any books or classes you would recommend to an expectant mother?

Hospitals have great classes and resources for birthing and any other topics of motherhood, like breastfeeding.  I went to a couple of classes in Babies R Us, they are free and you don’t lose anything by going to them! I didn’t read any specific book, I tried to read “the book” What to Expect when I’m Expecting and I just couldn’t read through it.  It takes me a while to read a whole book, so if you’re like me, maybe articles is best.  Less info to process at one time.

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Photos by Stefanie Keeler Photography

Love,

Natalia

Make sure to check the other moms collaborating:

Kacie Ellis elementsofellis.com // Amber Hill amberlately.com // Kymberly Janelle lifewithkymberlyjanelle.com // Stephanie Pollock stephpollock.com // Emily Lindsey happilylindsey.com 

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Let’s be Honest Mamas: Simplified Holidays

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Happy Holidays everyone!  Christmas is just around the corner and it makes me a little sad to be honest.  I want the holidays to feel a little longer, but they never do! I am so happy to be back this month with the Honest Mamas group of beautiful ladies.  This month the lovely Kacie from www.elementsofellis.com asked me and a few other mamas to be part of this month’s Q&A about Simplified Holidays.  I love that title because its something I want for my holiday traditions and overall life, to be simple.  I love the minimal Christmas decor and style and we are pretty laid-back with how much we do the day off.  So, I hope you enjoy reading my answers and make sure to read the other collaborating mama’s posts!  Links are attached at the bottom 🙂

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1. How do you make the holidays less hectic around your home?

Since Atticus was born, we decided we wanted to make the holidays less hectic and more chill.  We agreed not to go to several family houses in one day and that is will be easier (with a baby) to just decide in one meeting place, even if that meant not seeing the whole family.  So far, we have planned all our holidays to be at our house and family to come over.  As of food, we try to keep it simple and not stress with making a feast.  We keep it traditional with a turkey for Thanksgiving and pork for Christmas.  A few sides and one easy to make dessert.  We have kept it minimal with decorations, as you have gathered we are super laid-back on everything haha.  We want to make a tradition of always put up and decorate the Christmas tree on Thanksgiving weekend.  A few Christmas decorations around the house, including fresh garland and greenery.  The one thing we are horrible about are gifts, we don’t know how to buy gifts!  With Atticus so far it has been easy and we know exactly what we want for him.  However, for each other or the rest of the family… not so much!  We are very much the worst procrastinators.  I know even know what I want for myself! LOL.  We feel it is really important to make this a very special holiday for Atticus and we really don’t care if we get something for each other or not.

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2. In a season inundated with receiving, how do you teach your kids about giving?

Atticus is just a one-year old toddler and still doesn’t quite comprehend the act of sharing let alone giving.  Still, this is something we want to teach him.  I would love for him to make his own gifts to give to grandparents and ourselves.  I think is just the cutest, most especial gift to give and cherish forever.

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3. In order to enjoy the holidays, it’s important to be thoughtful with your celebrations and only do the things that make you happy. Are there traditions you’ve said “no” to? How did you make that change/tell your friends and family “no” is a way that didn’t upset them?

We haven’t set any big traditions in stone with family and friends.  The one big one was not going around several houses in one day.  Saying “no” is hard, but the comfort and sanity of my child, and ourselves, is first.  Having one big gathering is more especial to me than being so stressed getting in and out of the car with a bored hungry baby.  Am I right!?

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4. It’s easy to overspend this season. Share your tips for limiting the amount you spend on gifts. (example; making gifts, the 4 gift rule, etc.)

I have noticed I tend to spend more during the black Friday weekend and I want to control that for the years to come.  Again, I need to get better at planning way before the holidays come around.  I know for Atticus so far, we want to get him one “big gift” and a few smaller gifts to go with the bigger gift and books, always books.  I want to get better at the tradition of stuffing the stockings, every year we try to do this!

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5. Preparing meals for the family can be stressful. Do you have a simple meal you prepare ahead of time to help lessen the stress?

We are pretty laid-back with food.  I seasoned the meat one or two days before and keep it in the fridge.  That is the most preparing I do to be honest.  The rest is done since we wake up the day of, like potato salad, bread in the over, rice, mac and cheese.  Food is one thing I want to bring a little bit of my culture so rice and pork shoulder, and probably plantains,  is an always definitely on Christmas day!

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Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Love,

Natalia

Collaborating Mamas:

Kacie Ellis elementsofellis.com // Amber Hill amberlately.com // Stephanie Pollock stephpollock.com // Emily Lindsey happilylindsey.com // Camille Burley theburleytribe.com

my outfit:

jeans- Madewell / top- Everlane / shoes- Lotta from Stockholm  / hat- Target / watch- Daniel Wellington

his outfit:

top- Zara / pants- Zara (similar) / shoes- Vans

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Let’s be Honest Mamas: Postpartum

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Wow, it has been a while since an Honest Mamas post!  We took the summer off to spend time with our family and friends and go on any planned vacations.  This month the lovely Kacie from www.elementsofellis.com asked me and a few mamas to be part of this month’s Q&A.  This one is an important one for me since we are talking about postpartum  depression and postpartum life.  Hope you enjoy reading my answers and make sure to read the other collaborating mama’s posts!  Links are attached at the bottom 🙂

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1. Did you deal with the baby blues or postpartum depression? If yes, how long did it last and how did you cope? 

Yes, I have dealt with postpartum depression.  When Atticus was 2 months old I broke down and was diagnosed with Postpartum OCD and Anxiety.  I am still coping with it, but much better! Still go on monthly doctor visits and still on medication.  I relapsed once around July, but I can say that this week I am back to my old self.  Things I have done to make myself better are getting out of the house during the week, have lunch with friends, some therapy, sometimes exercise, travel and talk about it my PPD journey.

2. What are your must-have products for postpartum life? A belly band? Pads? Certain types of clothing?

For a few weeks after birth I rely on pads with witch hazel rounds.  I had a really bad tear, so that helped with pain and healing.  Flowy clothes, I couldn’t stand tight form-fitting clothes because they felt uncomfortable and I didn’t like myself in them.

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3. What is one thing you wish you would have been more prepared for postpartum?

I should have gone back on medication, since I was on them during my second and part of third trimester.  I should’ve read more about what postpartum depression looked like.  I know what depression feels like, but didn’t know about other types under postpartum like OCD and Psychosis.  As for my body, I really didn’t expect to have a third degree tear. I wasn’t prepared for that, but I guess is not something you can prepare for other than follow instructions about healing.

4. Share your favorite postpartum recipe…an easy meal, lactation cookies, etc.  

I would say tacos and fajitas were the easiest recipes to make.  Brown some ground beef and throw a taco seasoning packet.  Or cook some chicken with onions a peppers with fajita seasoning. White rice and chicken was on the menu too.  And of course take out and PB&Js!

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5. What do you love about your postpartum body?

I feel I like my body more postpartum than before I was pregnant.  I feel I am healthier than before and care more about taking care of myself so I am able to take care of my baby boy.

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Collaborating mamas:

Kacie Ellis elementsofellis.com // Amber Hill amberlately.com // Emily Lindsey happilylindsey.com // Camille Burley theburleytribe.com // Victoria Schneider thesoutherntrunk.com

Dress by: Dwell and Slumber 

Pictures by: Merè and Me Photography

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